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Moving Through Inertia in Your Marriage
"Silence is the language of inertia. "Margaret Hefferman Inertia is defined as “a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged”. I’ve been thinking about it this week as I’ve been changing my business phone carrier. I’ve been with the same company for at least...
Being Right vs. Happily Married
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." English Nursery Rhyme First, I need to point out that no one—not you, your wife, me, no one—is ever right all the time. So, if you are a “right fighter” you will struggle in your marriage. And if...
Your Marriage: Paying Now or Later
"Motion creates clarity. Waiting creates anxiety." Olly J Several years ago my client Todd said, “My marriage is important but…..” My mind immediately went to “now he’s going to tell me why it’s not.” Because that’s what the but means. I get the same feeling when I...
Be a Good Guy, Not Just a Nice One
"He who stops being better stops being good." Oliver Cromwell You’re familiar with the expression “nice guys finish last” aren’t you? Maybe you’ve experienced that for yourself at some point in your life. I’m not saying don’t be nice. I’m just saying it’s not enough....
How Do You Experience Love?
"Where there is love there is life." Mahatma Gandhi I’ve been working with clients around their relationships for more than 25 years. So I often think I’ve heard just about anything and everything. But last week, my client Matt surprised me. He asked—“What does love...
Honesty in Your Marriage is the Best Policy
"People like to say that the conflict is between good and evil. The real conflict is between truth and lies." Miguel Angel Ruiz Is honesty in a relationship a virtue in and of itself or must it be “rewarded”? This is the question I asked myself after one of my...
Being an Honorable Man in Your Marriage
"Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted in important affairs." Albert Einstein Being honorable has to do with people and actions that are honest, fair, and worthy of respect. When you think about how you show up in your marriage, would...
Damned If You Do…
"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable." David Augsberger Does it seem like no matter what you do, your wife always seems to be mad at you? If so, you’re probably hurt, confused, or frustrated. Or all...
Your Marriage Might NOT Have a Tomorrow
"I’ll think about it tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day." Scarlett O’Hara It’s been a rough week, technology wise. And if you know me, you know that’s not a good thing. I’m a digital immigrant who does okay, as long as all my devices are working properly....
Taking Charge of Intimacy in Your Marriage
"I much prefer people who rock the boat to people who jump out." Orson Welles I’ve started something new this year—First Friday Ask Me Anything. It’s the chance for you to get free coaching about anything marriage related. This month Paul took me up on the...
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