Is Your Wife Your Friend or Your Rival?

Is Your Wife Your Friend or Your Rival?

“Insecurity is at the heart of every rivalry.” Beth Moore Several years ago, a client of mine said, “If I do what my wife wants, she wins.”  I had two thoughts.  First, you don’t want to make accommodations for your wife? Second, you’ve just set your...
Hero Husbands Do Accountability—Not Blame 

Hero Husbands Do Accountability—Not Blame 

“Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation.” Mike Paul   Think about the people you admire the most.  Do they take ownership of their actions? Or blame others when things don’t go their way?...
Being Right vs. Happily Married

Being Right vs. Happily Married

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” English Nursery Rhyme First, I need to point out that no one—not you, your wife, me, no one—is ever right all the time. So, if you are a “right fighter” you will struggle in your...
Be a Good Guy, Not Just a Nice One

Be a Good Guy, Not Just a Nice One

“He who stops being better stops being good.” Oliver Cromwell You’re familiar with the expression “nice guys finish last” aren’t you? Maybe you’ve experienced that for yourself at some point in your life. I’m not saying don’t be nice. I’m just saying it’s...
Honesty in Your Marriage is the Best Policy

Honesty in Your Marriage is the Best Policy

“People like to say that the conflict is between good and evil. The real conflict is between truth and lies.” Miguel Angel Ruiz   Is honesty in a relationship a virtue in and of itself or must it be “rewarded”? This is the question I asked myself after one...