The best time to plant a tree was 30 years ago, and the second best time to plant a tree is now. George W. White
My husband and I came home last Saturday to find several cars and a bunch of young people in our street. My husband asked what was going on and one of the young women said our new neighbors just got engaged and they were having a party to celebrate.
After going inside, my husband, in a joking tone, said, “Maybe I should give them your card.”
I replied, “Yes, you should.”
Not because I think they are having trouble. But because the time to get your marriage on the right track is before you say, “I do”.
But most people think that your marriage needs to be headed for the rocks before you seek help.
And this is different from almost every other aspect of our lives.
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Do you know someone who has had lessons with a golf pro to improve their game?
Have you ever asked another parent how they got their children to sleep through the night or any other child-rearing issue?
Do you have a mentor to help you advance in your career?
Have you hired a financial planner to help with your retirement plans?
Or a personal trainer to get you fit or run a marathon?
But seeking knowledge and insight about how to have the best marriage possible? WHAT!!!!????
The one relationship that impacts every other aspect of your life isn’t worth investing in?
I remember a prospective client saying, “My marriage is important, but…..” Which really means it isn’t.
A study in 2023 found that 70% of couples report not understanding the realities of marriage. And yet, getting support is still seen as a punishment.
I realize that I am one of those marriage professionals so I’m not unbiased.
But if you’re like the above 70% of couples, you’re making marriage much more difficult than it needs to be.
And the cost of not gaining information and support can be very high.
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Reach out and share your thoughts about getting support for your marriage.
