“Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation.” Mike Paul
Think about the people you admire the most.
Do they take ownership of their actions?
Or blame others when things don’t go their way?
My guess is they take ownership.
Because people who blame others, no matter how old they are chronologically, are not grown-ups.
Being accountable is hard. Which is why far too many people don’t do it.
Yes, there will be outside influences that you can’t control. But how you respond to those influences is what will make you a hero or just one of the masses.
Defensiveness, what-about-ism, minimizing other’s feelings and blame are common responses to unpleasant or unwanted outcomes.
But facing your shortcomings, mistakes, and misunderstandings head on is the path to accountability, admiration, and respect.
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The only person you have control over is you and that’s all you need to bring real changes to your relationships.
When you model accountability, you show real leadership. And that’s what your family wants from you.
Hopefully, that’s what you want for yourself too. As well as gaining admiration and respect from your loved ones.
But you can’t do that if you’re too afraid to take ownership of your own actions.
Yes, your wife has responsibility in what your relationship looks like. She brings her perceptions, emotions, and reactions to the table just like you do. And your marriage would be better if she took ownership as well.
When you step up and go first, you make it possible for her to follow your lead. And isn’t that what a hero does?
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Contact Me and share how you take accountability in your marriage.
