“Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation.” Mike Paul
Think about the people you admire the most.
Do they take ownership of their actions?
Or blame others when things don’t go their way?
My guess is they take ownership.
Because people who blame others, no matter how old they are chronologically, are not grown-ups.
Being accountable is hard. Which is why far too many people don’t do it.
Yes, there will be outside influences that you can’t control. But how you respond to those influences is what will make you a hero or just one of the masses.
Defensiveness, what-about-ism, minimizing other’s feelings and blame are common responses to unpleasant or unwanted outcomes.
But facing your shortcomings, mistakes, and misunderstandings head on is the path to accountability, admiration, and respect.
Don’t Half-Ass Your Marriage
"Marriage is not just a spiritual communion, it is also remembering to take out the trash." Joyce Brothers The novel I’m currently reading has the main character realizing he only shows up in his marriage when it’s convenient. This week’s blog from my colleague...
Moving Through Inertia in Your Marriage
"Silence is the language of inertia. "Margaret Hefferman Inertia is defined as “a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged”. I’ve been thinking about it this week as I’ve been changing my business phone carrier. I’ve been with the same company for at least...
Being Right vs. Happily Married
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." English Nursery Rhyme First, I need to point out that no one—not you, your wife, me, no one—is ever right all the time. So, if you are a “right fighter” you will struggle in your marriage. And if...
The only person you have control over is you and that’s all you need to bring real changes to your relationships.
When you model accountability, you show real leadership. And that’s what your family wants from you.
Hopefully, that’s what you want for yourself too. As well as gaining admiration and respect from your loved ones.
But you can’t do that if you’re too afraid to take ownership of your own actions.
Yes, your wife has responsibility in what your relationship looks like. She brings her perceptions, emotions, and reactions to the table just like you do. And your marriage would be better if she took ownership as well.
When you step up and go first, you make it possible for her to follow your lead. And isn’t that what a hero does?
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Contact Me and share how you take accountability in your marriage.
