“Be the change you want to see happen.” Arleen Lorrance
January is Divorce Month.
It doesn’t mean all or even most divorces happen in January. It means that January is often when the divorce process kicks off.
It’s the time of year when family attorneys’ phones ring off the hook.
The holidays are over, and another year has begun.
Not wanting to put a damper on the festivities but also not wanting to spend another year in a less-than marriage, the time often feels right to begin the end of your marriage.
The good news is that there is another option. Because January is also the busy season for marriage professionals.
And, if you’re like a lot of husbands, you don’t want your marriage to end. You might want it to be better, but you don’t want it to end.
So, as my friend Deano Sutter says, if you want 2025 to be different, you need to do it differently.
And that requires courage. Courage to deal with what is at the heart of your challenges.
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I am sure you have tried to do that at various times in various ways. But if you, or your wife, are considering divorce, it hasn’t been successful.
And if something different isn’t done, nothing will change.
You may be waiting for her to do the changing. And she is probably waiting for you to change.
The longer the waiting goes on, the longer your marriage will suffer.
The truth is there are things that each of you need to change.
But if you take ownership for your part, make the changes that will bring about a better relationship, you stand a real chance to have the marriage you want.
So it’s important to know what those changes are.
It’s not about “appeasing the goddess” and just doing what she says she wants.
It’s about doing the things that have been proven to create healthy relationships.
You’ve got this. But, if you don’t, I’ve got you. Reach out and share the one thing you would like to be different in your marriage.
