“Friendship is what gives love its wings.” Sherry Thomas
Asking yourself if you’re in love with your wife or just love her is the wrong question. Or her asking the same about you.
The real question you want to focus on is, “Do you LIKE each other?”
Enough to spend regular, quality, alone time with each other?
Being lovers is good.
Being friends is good.
But being both lovers and friends is the best. It’s what will keep you connected through the years.
Being able to share all different kinds of experiences will keep your relationship fresh.
And doing new things with each other releases the same hormones and neurotransmitters that made you fall in love in the first place.
And who doesn’t want that?
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My husband and I were lucky enough to get away for the long holiday weekend and engage in some of our favorite activities.
We even unexpectedly got to experience a new one—a polo match. (Yes, the crowd really does go out during breaks and replace the divots on the field.)
Throughout our marriage we’ve tried to take time away with each other.
We’ve been lucky to have had either his parents or a good friend take care of our kids when they were young.
It’s worth the energy to invest in developing those kinds of relationships so your marriage can reap the benefits.
It keeps you connected so that once the kids leave, you still want to be together.
This is the time so many marriages end, and I find it both sad and mostly avoidable.
What do you and your wife like doing together?
If you can’t answer that question, it’s past time for a reset.
Even if the activity is one you would never do on your own, committing to it with a joyful heart and a willing spirit is the winning attitude.
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. If you want some ideas on how to reconnect, contact me and I’ll send you a personal response.
