“I’ll think about it tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day.” Scarlett O’Hara
It’s been a rough week, technology wise. And if you know me, you know that’s not a good thing.
I’m a digital immigrant who does okay, as long as all my devices are working properly.
But I’ve gotten a new phone—switching from iPhone to Android. So, I have to learn a whole new system. (Still in the process of getting everything set up but I chose this path. I know it will get done but it’s still not the way I want to spend my time.)
What I wasn’t counting on was my computer dying on Saturday morning. My computer guys couldn’t get it to start so a new computer was in the cards.
I was planning on working all weekend on two upcoming webinars. Instead, I was stymied.
And it wasn’t that I didn’t have warning this was coming. The computer had been acting squirrelly for a few weeks. And it’s a few years old. I should have taken the time to back everything up in the event disaster struck.
But I didn’t. And then it was too late.
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I don’t like having to contact Microsoft, my webhosting company, my calendar app, Zoom, etc. And if I wanted to be up and running, they were necessary. But having these “conversations” often makes me feel stupid. (Especially when my emails can be recovered but my calendar can’t. Even though they both run through Office 365. What is up with that?)
So, you’re probably asking yourself, “Lesli, what does this have to do with my marriage?”
If you’re like a lot of people, you may overlook symptoms of pending problems. Even if your wife has made specific mention of her unhappiness and desire for change, you may tell yourself it’s not that bad. Or, that you have plenty of time to change things.
After all, you’re still getting along. Maybe you’re even still having sex. It’s not perfect but things seem to be okay.
Until one day your marriage, like my computer, stops working.
And getting your relationship back on track will take more time and effort than going to the local Staples, spending a couple of hours at the AT&T store and making a few phone calls to tech support.
Not to mention, the cost will be much higher.
But because I don’t know how all the tech works; I don’t handle it myself. I find people who can help me.
The mistake many people make, maybe even you, is they think they know how relationships work. That they are natural, so why spend time, effort, and money on guidance you don’t need?
Until you do.
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Reach Out and let me know if there are any “symptoms” you’re putting off addressing.
