Do What Works in Your Marriage, Not What’s “Fair”

Do What Works in Your Marriage, Not What’s “Fair”

“Sometimes the urge to be right can be very wrong for a relationship.” Charles F. Glassman Do you want to be “right” in your marriage, or do you want to be happy in it? I want to address some of the criticism I’ve gotten in response to my piece, “Is Your Wife Always...
Why Doing What Your Wife Wants Isn’t Working

Why Doing What Your Wife Wants Isn’t Working

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” Henry Ford You’ve heard the expression “Happy Wife, Happy Life”. Maybe you’ve even taken it to heart. Now there is nothing wrong with...
Is Your Wife Your Friend or Your Rival?

Is Your Wife Your Friend or Your Rival?

“Insecurity is at the heart of every rivalry.” Beth Moore Several years ago, a client of mine said, “If I do what my wife wants, she wins.”  I had two thoughts.  First, you don’t want to make accommodations for your wife? Second, you’ve just set your...
Hero Husbands Do Accountability—Not Blame 

Hero Husbands Do Accountability—Not Blame 

“Trust, honesty, humility, transparency and accountability are the building blocks of a positive reputation.” Mike Paul   Think about the people you admire the most.  Do they take ownership of their actions? Or blame others when things don’t go their way?...
Being Right vs. Happily Married

Being Right vs. Happily Married

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” English Nursery Rhyme First, I need to point out that no one—not you, your wife, me, no one—is ever right all the time. So, if you are a “right fighter” you will struggle in your...