Why Winning at Work Feels Easier Than Winning at Home

Why Winning at Work Feels Easier Than Winning at Home

“An ounce of performance is worth pounds of promises.” – Mae West Let’s be honest — most of you reading this are really good at what you do. At work, you have systems, strategies, and clear metrics for success. You know when you’ve crushed a project, closed a...
Your Ego vs. Your Marriage

Your Ego vs. Your Marriage

“Marriage is our last best chance to grow up.” Joseph Barth My mother would often tell the story about how my father would correct her, in public, over a minor “factual” mistake. If she said something was ½ inch, he, an engineer, would point out it was...
Do What Works in Your Marriage, Not What’s “Fair”

Do What Works in Your Marriage, Not What’s “Fair”

“Sometimes the urge to be right can be very wrong for a relationship.” Charles F. Glassman Do you want to be “right” in your marriage, or do you want to be happy in it? I want to address some of the criticism I’ve gotten in response to my piece, “Is Your Wife Always...
Why Doing What Your Wife Wants Isn’t Working

Why Doing What Your Wife Wants Isn’t Working

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” Henry Ford You’ve heard the expression “Happy Wife, Happy Life”. Maybe you’ve even taken it to heart. Now there is nothing wrong with...
Is Your Wife Your Friend or Your Rival?

Is Your Wife Your Friend or Your Rival?

“Insecurity is at the heart of every rivalry.” Beth Moore Several years ago, a client of mine said, “If I do what my wife wants, she wins.”  I had two thoughts.  First, you don’t want to make accommodations for your wife? Second, you’ve just set your...