“When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses – only results.” Ken Blanchard
I’m still thinking about Independence Day and what it can teach you about marriage.
July 4th, 1776 was the day the Founding Fathers signed the Declaration of Independence stating their plans to leave the British Empire. It was an important day. But it was only the beginning of the process to create a new nation.
Your wedding day was your declaration of intent to create a new union as well. But, like the 4th, it was just the beginning.
The Founding Fathers and the rest of the population that supported the Revolution had no idea how it would turn out. But they did know that they were risking their lives—either from death in battle or by execution for treason if they were unsuccessful.
It wasn’t an easy process. And not everyone was on board.
The first years of the war were difficult. Many battles were lost. The Continental Army suffered from disorganization, food shortages, and a lack of money.
Now, your marriage most likely started out on much stronger footing. But neither of you were entirely sure how it would turn out.
Hopefully, your trials haven’t been as harsh or life-threatening as our forefathers. But you have had them.
Those fighting to form a new country had to figure out a way forward. Some had experience in battle. Most did not. Keeping them motivated and engaged was a big job.
Sound familiar?
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But they didn’t give up. They were willing to risk just about anything to succeed. They gave their time, their money, and their courage.
Are you willing to do the same to fight for your marriage?
The Continental Army didn’t do it alone. They had help from France and from foreign military officers who got them on the right track. Without them, history would probably tell a different tale.
And you don’t have to manage your marriage alone either.
If your marriage isn’t how you want it to be, the answer isn’t to give up.
It’s to reach out.
Because when you get help and support from the right people, you increase your chance of success.
You’ve got this. But if you don’t, I’ve got you. Contact me and share what you need to fully commit to your marriage.
